Ideas, Journal

only 12 hours to live

If you only have 12 hours left to live, what will you do?

  • The image was vivid in that dream.
  • The doctor declared that I have 12 hours more to go in that dream.
  • No one was crying in that dream.
  • Mum told me to resign to faith in that dream.
  • I thought… “that’s quick…” in that dream.
  • I lost all will to do anything more in that dream.
  • I sieved through my paraphernalia and thought about keeping them in that dream.
  • Then again, what’s the point when I can’t bring it to the other side. I let them go in that dream.

I think it was a dream to ask me to let go, whatever it meant.

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I polled my friends over Facebook. Four replied. One responded with comical delight and the other thought that he would live as per normal. The other two had this to say:

Do a video call with all friends n students to thank them for being my friend

~T~

Get all my good friends and loved ones together for a great meal cum drinks as well as a live band to play some oldies and dance music.

I love a happy, rock-and-roll send-off to Heaven or Hell if any”

~AW~

True. It’s the relationship that matters! I guess I was too busy of letting go.

Still, I can’t help but have that premonition something is not going well. Not a good feeling to have at all.

If you only have 12 hours left to live, what will you do?

 

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simplify … How I let go of my most treasured present

The more I have, the more troubled I am!

And that is after three years of simplifying my life. I still feel that I am owning too many stuff for my own good. I started digitising magazine cut outs so that they do not take up precious physical space. That helps a whole lot although it might become a time bomb in the future to tackle a glut of virtual clutter.

I gone through my books once again and at last, I am able to let go of five more books; I’m in the process of finding good homes for them.

For things which are really precious, such as souvenirs and presents gifted by my closest friends, well… these are difficult. Until I found this article by Amanda Kendle who offered me a solid reminder:

Tip No 5: Use them. Accept that they will one day break, or worn out, or stop becoming useful and that would be that.

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Souvenirs and presents, most remembered although some not remembered as well. The Tasmanian Devil pen was given by my band juniors back in 1998 and the silver pen was a birthday pen given by a friend who I have lost touched with in year 2001. The other two are likely to be gifts from friends while they were overseas, most likely the Hong Kong one from either MT or CC, and the Bali one from IY.

I am both happy and troubled whenever a friend gifts travel souvenirs. I’m very happy that they thought about me even when they are overseas but I feel troubled trying to find a place to keep them. Even when I have completely used them, I will still end up keeping them for I have quite an exceptional memory for many of the memorabilia which I received.

A few months ago, I have started using the collection of fridge magnets and key chains which I received from my friends. They have currently found a home in my office (where i spent most of my time) nicely displayed. The idea is once I feel that they no longer serve their purpose, I will let them go. And I will do what Marie Kondo do: thank the item for their service and the joy that they have given me and let go of it.

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The hardest thing for me is to convince myself that letting go does not mean that I do not treasure the friendship.

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I think it is about how we let the gifts go when they no longer serve the purpose they meant to serve.

And this is how I let go of my most treasured present…

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My most treasured present: a set of bowling gear which was gifted to me from a group of officers at the Navy whom took great care of me. I no longer bowl and don’t intend to pursue bowling. It was a big item that took up a bit too much space and a yearly hassle to maintain it and just to look at it purely so I can remember it. Yet, it was a painful process to let it go.

After what seemed like over 8 years of contemplation, I suddenly knew how to do it. I found the bowling gear a new owner, an aspiring bowler who would bowl with it instead of gathering dust like what I did with it. On the final day, I took pictures of my bowling gear and have a bowling game with the new owner while using my gear for the final time. During the game, I continue to polish the ball as I usually would, treating it with the same respect as I would.

At the end of the day, I handed my bowling gear to the new owner and reminded the owner to treat his “new” bowling gear well. I let him know the history and the value of the gear and my reasons for letting go of it.

The only thing I kept was the pair of bowling shoes which could still serve as great memory to use it if someone ever invite me for a bowling game.

I let go of my most treasured present in the best way I can to honour the gift and honour the friendship and the circumstances it was given to me.

I will continue to remember how it was given to me.

Most importantly, I will remember the mentorship and the fellowship that you have given me, even though our ships are now heading towards different directions.

I will remember it in my heart.

Guide

the ART of studying (part 3): Tips to tackle technical written examinations

While my friends are chasing ‘A’s, I proudly proclaimed that I am chasing after perfection. It is not because I am a memorising king of the class. Quite the opposite, I sat through my A level Mathematics paper with only one single formula in my head; I derived everything else on the spot.

So imagine, doing well without much memorisation. Isn’t that a dream? I think it is possible and what I hope to do today is to summarised this personal studying technique that I adopt into a few palatable points.

By the way, if you have any personal routines that works for you, I hope to learn from you too so please share them in the comments below.

Practice Question Focused

Through years of taking examinations and now, being an educator myself, I understood what I was doing that worked. My method is practice question focused and works best with science, technology, engineering and mathematics related topics.

Collecting Past Year Papers

I collect as many past year papers as my time allows myself to go through. If there are answers than all the better. Mock papers are used if I am unable to locate actual past year papers.

I divide them into three piles:

  • Collection 1. Somewhat new past year paper except for the latest (about four papers)
  • Collection 2. Older past year papers (over 3 to 5 years old)
  • Collection 3. The two newest past year paper

Studying Phase

Open the first two papers from Collection 1 and start doing! Open book. No time limit.

The idea is to find a way to go through your notes. Practice keeps the studying process active and a great way to help your brain remember things.

The other main point is to keep the studying process stress free. There is no need to impose a time limit and don’t be too hard on yourself for not being able to do the question. It is your first attempt anyway.

If you cannot answer a question with an open book, ask for help.

This means that we are facing a knowledge gap. There is something we do not understand. Ask your friends or your prof for help.

Practice Phase

Use the next two papers from Collection 1 and rely less on your notes. Also, spot for “patterns” in the question and find out the method to answer the question.

Relying less on notes means that you will only refer to it if there is a need to. This is to test your memory. The hope is that when you have repeated the same type of questions for a couple of time, you already remember the facts so that there is no need to memorise it.

Spotting for “patterns” is also an important process too because these are your “giveaway” questions that you can score. Your professor probably think you should be able to answer those questions anyway. If there is a pattern, there is usually a standard method to solve those questions. This help you to increase the speed in solving those questions.

Mock Exam 1

With the second newest past year paper from Collection 3, find a quiet place where you cannot be disturb and sit for your first mock exam. This is a closed book and timed exam.

Time management is also an important part of the examination. If you did not finish the paper in time, note how many questions are left blank. Proceed to complete the exam to identify speed gap, memory gap and knowledge gap that you might have.

If you can complete the question without your notes, you have a speed gap. You need to find a method that allow you to complete the question faster.

If you need your notes to complete the question, you have a memory gap. Memorisation at this stage will help.

If you can’t answer it with an open book, you have a knowledge gap. You need to ask for help.

Further Practice Phase

Do papers from Collection 2.

Do this if you still have time to spare before the big day. Keep your brain active and do not let it rest. Keep getting in touch with your study material through this method.

If there are questions that you can’t do, it may not matter as much because some of the content tested may be outdated.

Mock Exam 2

Do the newest past year paper from Collection 3 one to two days before your examination. This is a close book and timed exam.

All that applies to Mock Exam 1 applies to Mock Exam 2 too. At this stage, you will know how well you are going to do for the examination and it will give you some certainty over your grades.

One difference. If you have a memory gap, write down the facts on a piece of paper. Bring this paper along to the entrance of the examination hall.

Night Routine: Relax, Eat well, Sleep Well

Do not attempt to study the night before. The focus is getting yourself cared for so that you are in your best mental state to attempt the examination. Stay away from coffee and spicy food, any detractors that will upset your stomach or keep you awake at night. Do ordinary things that you do to relax.

Sleep and your brain will help you do the memoriastion sub-conscientiously. This is where memorisation take place.

Last Minute Rush

Open up the piece of note you have written for yourself after Mock Exam 2. Read through it and hope for the best.

Tell yourself that you have done all that you can.

Concluding Remarks

The examination study technique is a practice question focused method which keeps the learning process active. Part of which would also require me to address the following gaps that I may have:

Speed Gap: Caused by working too slowly on a problem. To increase speed, find a standard method that allows you to solve the problem quickly.

Memory Gap: Things you can’t remember for nuts. Do more questions that uses that part of the content and get in touch with it as often as you can. Relax, eat well and sleep well and let your brain help you do the memorisation for you.

Knowledge Gap: Questions that cannot be solved even with an open book. Ask for help from your friends or your professors!

I hope this has been helpful for you and once again, if you have any personal routines that works for you, I hope to learn from you too so please share them in the comments below.

Guide

the ART of studying (part 2): Effective Studying Techniques

I pushed myself to take up a Specialist Diploma in Teaching and Learning offered by my institution recently. It came with a thick reading list spanning three textbooks.

THREE! That’s thousand over pages!

It’s a fearful thought for me. After all, I didn’t manage to successfully continue my Japanese language learning, ever since I tried to restart the effort late 2014, and 2015, and 2016, and… you get the picture.

I figured that I have great problems focusing:

– My attention span shortens.

– My energy dips very quickly. This is especially so during weekday evenings, all tired from work.

– I get bored easily.

I really thought I lost all discipline to be able to learn something new effectively. Whatever happened to that drive I had while I’m in the university?

But I must pull through this. It is after all something that I wanted to do.

I needed a strategy to do this and hence, what it seems like for the first time in my life, I began to study how to study.

This is what I found worked for me to do some serious studying and I would like to share it with you. I like to summarise it using three ‘S’s: Start, Sustain, Study

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Start: Beat Procrastination in a Minute

Don’t feel like studying? Just start studying for one minute whether you like it or not. I got inspired by the Japanese philosophy of Kaizen, but instead of turning studying into a one-minute activity for that little improvement, I use the one minute to see if I can get into the groove of things, into that focus mode to study. If I can, I’ll continue to study!

But there will also be days which I just don’t. If that’s the case, I’ll cut myself a bit of slack and maybe just do a 15 minute session instead. Just need to make sure that this doesn’t happen too often.

Sustain: Pacing with the Pomodoro

The next part was really about sustainability, how to keep up with study and keeping the energy level up. The Pomodoro technique advocates that we can keep our energy up by working in the following cycle:

  • Study: 25 min
  • Active Rest: 5 min (Get up and walk around!)
  • Study: 25 min
  • Active Rest: 5 min
  • Study: 25 min
  • Active Rest: 5 min
  • Study: 25 min
  • Active Rest: 15 min

The best part is, it need not be 25 minutes and 5 minutes. We can tune it according to what our body can take. I find that I work the best using 35-5-30-5-30-10-25-30 cycle. I guess when I start getting even better at focusing, I can study for a longer period.

Study: The Mechanics of Reading a Textbook for Understanding

Reading for me is a very slow process and doesn’t work well for the kinesthetic learner in me. To read a chapter off a textbook more quickly and effectively, why not try the P2R method advocated by Cornell College:

1. Preview the chapter. Read the headings, the introduction paragraph, the concluding paragraph and the practice questions behind if there’s any to get a feel about what this chapter is going to be about. Reading the introductory paragraph to me is important because it can help to interest me to read further rather than stopping after previewing.

2. Read the chapter. Now, read it bit by bit. Make a mental note of the main points and the examples. If a chapter is very long, you may even want to divide the reading task into sub-chapters. Do NOT highlight or make notes at this point. Focus on the reading.

3. Review. Highlight, underline or write notes only at this point. I prefer writing notes because I no longer need to refer to my textbook that much after reviewing. I also have a tendency to draw pictures in my notes to make it fun to read.

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I’m glad to say, it worked out well so far! I clock in 6 hours of reading the very first day I hit the books and still managing to focus for a good productive 1 to 4 hours for days to come.

I still haven’t quite figure out how to prevent my energy from dipping in the evening without napping or coffee (these have serious effects: insomnia may kick in!). As for Japanese, it’s really about going through the grammar guidebook which I felt works differently from textbooks. I guess I will need more time to figure out what will work for me better.

If you have any ideas how I can stay awake in the evening, or how I should go about learning a language at an advanced level, please let me know in the comments below!

 

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Soak in LOCAL colours: Returning to Vietnam

And I didn’t know I will be returning to Vietnam for a second trip. This time round, it is a business trip at Danang. The traffic that filled with the constant honking continues to amaze me.

Seeing how a roadside chic juice store operates along an esplanade is even more amazing. Here’s a picture of it:

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A roadside juice store in Vietnam, Danang

“Let’s do what the locals do,” I suggested to my colleague.

And we proceeded to one of the “front row” seats located outside the store.

The first thing that attracted me about the cafe was that where possible, everyone who was patronising the store sat facing the road and the river bank, oblivious to the air pollution and noise pollution. The seats and tables were small and arranged neat rows in the tightest possible configuration to fit in as many customers as they could. All seats were arranged facing the road and the river.

There were actually a couple of such cafes located all along the road. Some selling fruit juice but majority selling coffee. And only coffee. No snacks, just tea and coffee. The seats were almost always small, almost always arranged in a way such that you could look outside.

For this particular one, it comes with its own valet service manned by a team of six to eight young men!

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The “team-leader” of the valet service inviting patrons on who were on their motorbikes.

They were extremely organised in my opinion. From observations, I believe they have split themselves into three teams:

The first team comprises the person who I perceived as the team leader, along with another would proactively call out to customers, ON BIKES, on the roads, to ask them to enjoy a drink in the store.

The second team will mark the bikes with chalk and safe-keep the keys for the customers.

The third team will ride the bikes to a parking space just behind the store.

The amazing thing was that business is extremely good! Every 2 minutes or so, the team will be able to attract business into the store. I wouldn’t have thought that such service could work.

Sometimes, interested customers may end up on the opposite side of the road, facing difficulty to ride across the other side of the road against the crazy Vietnam traffic. The team would then cross the road to help the customers to handle their bike.

Talk about personalised service!

I don’t think I ever saw such modus operandi in running a roadside cafe. It was an eye opening experience for me.

I don’t do a lot of shopping or eating or massaging when I’m travelling although I do enjoy a bit of touristy stuff once in a while. What I enjoy most is to learn the culture and observe how locals live their daily life. Another way to describe things, to “soak myself in local colours”.

Do you soak yourself in local colours too?

 

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the ART of studying (part 1): the POWER of two JC students

We seldom meet and seldom speak. But we knew can have the most intellectual conversations together even after not contacting each other for so long. It’s always great to meet an old friend and reminisce about the past. Time really flies and it’s almost two decades since we’ve known each other.

And so, eventually, the topic about how N and I studied for examinations came into our conversations. My pet topic with the polytechnic students I teach. I find it an imperative to let them know how hard the JC students actually studied so that they won’t get a culture shock when they hit the university.

“… and I started studying during the mid-term break at about 9 weeks before the examination, doing past year papers, even though the Professor has not finished teaching more than half the material.

By the time we got into the examination study week, I would have almost ran out of past year papers to do!” I proudly declare it to N.

“Same here. I started studying two weeks before the start of the semester. As in, I will always read the lecture notes two weeks before the actual class.

By the time we got into the examination study week, I’ve already ran out of past year papers to do so I started search for Harvard and MIT papers from the Internet to do.” N spoke about it casually.

“You WHAT?!”

Didn’t realise he was that hard core.

There’s one thing we can both agree. Don’t ever study the last minute. We both spent the day before the examination doing something else much to the envious eyes of our own groups of friends.

Leadership in Action

A LEADER in the MAKING: Observing Leadership in my Students

I’ve appointed JH to be the chief technical lead of the class project. Within a short span of 5 minutes, he met the rest of the technical lead for a debriefing session, displaying exceptional tact and soft skills that could easily put some of the adults to shame.

Gratitude

He started the session by thanking the technical leads for the effort they have put in.

Integrity and Positivity

He was humble, mentioning that he too was “very messy” during the management of the class project but expressed optimism that the project had advanced at good speed despite all that.

Care for All

During the debrief, one of the technical leads highlighted that one of her team members was difficult to work with and had refused help from her. Together with the technical leads, they brainstormed about how to tactfully ask the team member for her progress and lead her to getting help if she needs it. He advised the technical lead to exercise more patience and expressed that things will go well.

I’m very impressed. I hope that he can continue to bring this into the working world and be a boss of some company. The world is going to need more leaders like him.